Let's not be FORGOTTEN or INVISIBLE with our Old, and Disable Adults, with/without dementia.
Usually are retired .., still can not participate in everyday activities, unfortunately there is a big stigma not only by society but sadly by their own families.
Very painful .. I have seen that their own families do not integrate them anymore. " oh no my parents they won't go to the wedding , they will stay home". I do understand that decision depend on each individual mental medical situation with dementia . But we have to help organize their lives with love, and safety.. most of them are seeing by their families as a big ..big burden.
Most of their time they have to be at home, for "safety" 4.3 millions of Americans with dementia (aged 55 and older) are secluted at home.
They have been FORGOTTEN they are INVISIBLE..
But as dementia is progressing ,because definitely is .. a processes, in that bumping road people with dementia still can be proactive, and be integrated by their families in daily activities with family members.
And on the opposite is very beneficial for them to participate in events, activities and family reunions.
I have seen ..sometimes parents to be judged by their children. " they were not there for me too when I was a child.." let's stop.. once per all.. that negative dysfunctional family chain ..Believe me it's up to you to close that painful stage.
We know that unfortunately Dementia last stages will happen. ,sooner or later ... but in the mean time we should assist our parents in this sad process wih flowers in their hair (as the San Francisco song) , music ,family surroundings until that sad day arrives.
Believe me ..those day will be gone ..sooner than later. Don't regret..you can help them now , and also help you.
Also very important reach out for help, there are caregivers, home help ,special institutions that are there with diferent valuable programs ,and activities for our loveones in need.
If your loved ones have either, Lewy body Dementia LB, Frontal Temporal Dementia FTD ,Vascular Dementia, Parkinson, and Alzheimer...among other's dementia disorders, read ,get to know these new terminologies, because in that way you will have enough tools to help them to have a much better quality of life in this stressful process...of uncertainty.
These well known institutions will help your loved ones to go thru that process with music, and love..talking always in a metaphorical/ figurative way ..." flowers in your hair".
Let's finish once and for all with this anguish and segregation of the FORGOTTEN and INVISIBLE old ,disable adults, with any type of dementia .
On the opposite let's embrace them with Love..and remember reach out for help..
because there is help !!
take care of you
Take care of them....life is not forever..
That's Love.. the Circle of LOVE.
Your friend in love
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FEBRUARY 23rd, 2026
San Francisco, CA
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